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Beberapa waktu lalu saya mendapat kiriman email dari Itha yang berisi tulisan seseorang bernama Idris Tawfiq. Isi tulisannya tentang apa yang harus disiapkan oleh pasangan yang hendak menikah. Menurut Pak Idris Tawfiq ada dua hal yang penting yang harus dilakukan: bersikap jujur tentang diri sendiri dan realistik akan apa yang diharapkan. Berikut ini kutipan tulisannya.

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There are two very important things which we can apply to any aspect of our lives, but which are especially important when we are thinking about marriage: the need to be honest about who you are and the need to be realistic about what you expect.
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Mengapa harus jujur?

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The two of you, inshallah, are going to spend many happy years together, so prepare the ground well. Tell each other about your strengths and your weaknesses.
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Mengapa harus realistik?

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You are not going to marry Superman or Miss World. Inshallah, you will love each other very much, but don’t put your spouse on such a pedestal that they find it impossible to live up to. You are both very ordinary human beings, a man and woman made by Allah, and you will both have to work very hard accepting each other’s limitations. Be prepared to help each other. Be prepared to try hard to make the marriage work.
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Laugh together when you make mistakes. Support each other in building your marriage. You will be man and wife. Your religion will be made complete by the other person in your life. Inshallah, you will be blessed with children who will love and respect you. So, prepare well.
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dan, pada akhirnya …

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It seems fairly obvious, but we should also say that in choosing a husband or wife you will also be choosing the mother or father for your children and the one who will look after your home or provide for you. This is where the advice of family and friends can help. Take your time and think very carefully. Above all, don’t rush. Ask Almighty Allah to bless you with a good wife or husband. Ask Him Who created all things to give you a happy and lasting marriage. Ask Him for the grace to make you a good and caring husband or wife, supporting the other in times of joy and sorrow. Think carefully about the life ahead of you and when the time comes, inshallah, you will be blessed with a long and happy marriage and with a spouse you will love and cherish all your life.

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